The biggest life lesson learnt from my 5 year old

by - 2/08/2024

 


I may sound like a broken record here but " The child is the father of man" has never held truer before. As I am progressing in motherhood every day, I am getting to learn new things, from my kiddos, with every passing day. And these lessons not only mean swanky lingo and new technology trivia but real life lessons too.



My little one turned 5 a week back. It seems it was just yesterday that we were scheduling my C section a day before  Republic Day, so that we can enjoy the day off after her birthday.  Now that life seems to have been divided between Before COVID and after COVID era, these 5 years have definitely the fastest of my life.



My two girls are polar opposite in nature. While the elder one is sensible and patient, she is over expressive in venting out her anger and disappointment. The little one is more pampered, and hence gets angry at the drop of a hat. However, her way of expression is 180 degrees apart from her Didi. She throws a big smile to get things done her way.



I am not being partial if I am saying this, but most of the times I am unable to scold her because the way her goody smile calms me down. This one turn has increased my patience many folds!



The biggest life lesson that she has taught me is that a genuine smile is the ticket to put away problems. And of course, anger is momentary. If we can go past those few minutes of heat, the world would be a much calmer place.




Little one requested for a Unicorn birthday party this year. We had celebrated our elder one's seventh birthday in a unicorn theme, so I got to reuse some of the previous stuff. Of course I made subtle changes so that the pictures don't look similar 15 years from now! Also, this was the first time (of course it's the beginning) that Mishi had her school friends celebrating with her. Birthday parties are heck of a job when you are in charge of everything (I am sure moms would be able to relate) but the most satisfying when it's a huge success!






This blog post is parto f the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Bohemian Bibliophile.

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27 comments

  1. Anger is momentary but we have handled my younger one's anger bursts and he has reduced them considerably. Or at least is aware. Parties can be tiring! Been doing that for 11 years now with last year being the big ones with backdrops and air castles.

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  2. Birthday parties are super tiring but when our little ones asks for something with their cute smile, it's impossible to say no. It's heartwarming to see how much we can learn from our little ones.

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  3. Arranging birthday party is big stressed events. But we mom are always excited than our kids. Yes, very true Smile is the one way to conquer the world. I was short tempered but once I became a mother I used smile a lot. And it helps in my self development.

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  4. A smile is a ticket to the world and anger is momentary, so well said and learned. Your pix are so contagious, such a happy vibe. Blessed be those who have beautiful families.

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  5. Hey Mandira, give my best wishes to your little one for completing 5 years and also to your elder one for completing 5 years of DIDIHOOD. Offcourse how can I stay away from not wishing you and your hubby... Happy birthday once again for your 2nd parenthood celebration. I totally agree with you that smile can solve many problems in life and I follow that in practical life. Even when I am in the darkest moments of my life I smile and that makes me feel better and healed from inside out. Smile is truly infectious and I want all to have this infection to make life better. By the way while checking the pics of the celebration I came across the face of a old colleague of mine Vanipriya.... Once upon a time we were working with the same bank.

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  6. I have learnt so much from my son, life lessons as you call them. Definitely, a genuine smile wins so many hearts and you can get done more with a smile than with anger.
    Lovely pics from the birthday party.

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  7. I have learnt so much from my son, life lessons as you call them. Definitely, a genuine smile wins so many hearts and you can get done more with a smile than with anger.
    Lovely pics from the birthday party.
    Ruchi Nasa https://thejumblemumble.wordpress.org

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  8. These little masters can teach us a lot of lessons if we pay heed. A smile is powerful indeed, it not only heals us but also wins over the person facing us, but in our ego and anger, we sometimes forget that. Nice post Mandira!

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  9. Lovely pictures they all are. and yes organising parties are a task.

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  10. The way you express the passage of time, from scheduling a C-section to celebrating your daughter's fifth birthday, highlights the bittersweet reality of watching our children grow up before our eyes.
    Thank you for sharing your heartfelt reflections on motherhood and the invaluable lessons learned from your precious daughter. It's clear that she has enriched your life in ways you never could have imagined.

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  11. Mandira, give my best wishes to your little one for completing 5yrs. The way you talk about going from scheduling a C-section to celebrating your daughter's fifth birthday shows how quickly time flies when raising kids. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on motherhood and the important lessons you've learned from your daughter.
    I completely agree with your perspective on the power of a smile. It's something I've experienced firsthand, especially when I first arrived in Oman. The warmth of people greeting each other with smiles, whether they know each other or not, was truly beautiful. It was a gesture that initially surprised me, as it's not something commonly seen in India where smiling at strangers isn't the norm.

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  12. This is indeed like reading what's on my mind, in my case it's my 4 year old son who taught me the same reason. My kids are opposite just like how you mentioned having their own way to get things done

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  13. We learn so much from our children when they are tiny tots. Yes a smile can do wonders. My daughter was the same when she was a child. Belated birthday wishes to your daughter. God bless. Lovely photos.

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  14. Your reflection on motherhood and the lessons learned from your children is both heartwarming and insightful. Your willingness to learn from your children reflects humility and openness to growth.

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  15. lively and lovely picture telling a lot. also the lesson you mentioned is really an important one!

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  16. 'A genuine smile is the ticket to put away problems and anger is momentary. If we can go past those few minutes of heat, the world would be a much calmer place.' I'm gonna remember this lesson by your little one and try and implement it myself. A belated happy birthday to the cutie. If the pictures of the kiddos, adults, food and decor are anything to go by, the party seems to be smashing hit. I'm sure she's gonna remember it as a cherished memory for years and would nod, acknowledge and validate that title of 'Best Party Planner' that you're sure to have earned by the time she's an adult.

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  17. Mandira, please pass on my best wishes to your little one for turning 5 and to your elder one for completing 5 years as a big sister. I completely agree that a smile can solve many problems, and I practice that in my daily life. Even during my darkest moments, a smile makes me feel better and heals me from the inside out. A smile is contagious, and my aim in life is to spread smiles.

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  18. I could relate to you so much. I completely agree that we have so much to learn form or kids. My little one is also the same, I could never shout at her,she's makes those innocent faces that melts me down. Love reading it.

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  19. I have learnt a lot too from my kids and parenting different personalities gives one a great insight into children's minds. By the way lovely pictures!

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  20. Children are truly gods greatest blessing and our biggest teachers. I am constantly learning from them and evolving as a mother. The biggest lesson I stand by is, a happy mother can raise a happy child/children.

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  21. Your daughters are adorable, I always feel like they teach you such beautiful life lessons while totally enjoying themselves and making it not feel like a serious life lesson. beautiful birthday celebration and happy memories! happy birthday wishes :)

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  22. What a coincidence, even I have 2 polar opposite kids and they behave exactly the same as you have described about your 2 little ones. I think we got similar dramas at home, of course along with some wonderful learnings they give us.

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  23. Children can teach us many new things about life .. can change our perspectives.

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  24. Beautiful pics and belated birthday wishes to your daughter. I've often been told by friends who have two kids that both are very different from each other. Organising parties for kids is indeed, a huge task.

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  25. Best wishes to the little champ. How pretty these pics are and I understand how much effort you put there to decor everything and made it super success. Smile is the key solution to every problem and look how kiddo tought us that in a simple way.

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  26. Indeed, the magic of a smile knows no bounds.
    There's a wealth of wisdom to be gained from our little ones in their early years.

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  27. Happy Belated 5th Birthday to Mishi and wishing her love, health and happiness. It's sooo sweet that her smile changes your mood and something as simple as that has made a profound impact on your overall outlook towards life. I m sure u will learn many such lessons from them all your life Mandira.
    P.S: I have two girls too, a teen n a tween, 4 years apart and they hate each other๐Ÿ˜›

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