For the first time in my life, I spent my birthday away from my parents, friends (those who matter to me; ie my closest gal pals ) and my four year old! And by away I mean another continent, not just any other city!

For the past 34 years, I had avoided travelling on my birthday. I wanted to be available to take the calls; without any roaming charges (IYKYK) and respond to every single birthday wish on all channels of social media.

 However year by year, I have been receiving lesser wishes than the previous year, maybe this is a big sign of growing older? So two months back, when the husband suggested to explore Tanzania (the best time to visit is mid June onwards, I jumped at his offer). My father wasn't too pleased (typical overprotective Bengali father syndrome), he not being able to meet me on my birthday, and that too spending it away from my younger one.

Anyways, the bottom line is that nobody cares (barring a handful of close people) and it took me 35 years to learn this. So sharing my two cents from 35 years of my life.... some of these are lessons learnt, others are intentions/goals for my future.

Yes, I carried these balloons all the way to Zanzibar, Tanzania because 'call me crazy 🤣!'

1. Don't sulk, life is too short.

2. Don't regret, life is too short.

3. Don't hold grudges. Again, you know why

4. Don't waste time. 

5. Just do what you want to do (I mean non criminal things)

6. Stop giving a damn to what others think.

7. Stop pleasing others

8. Don't forget to take pictures, you are the star of your own movie

9. Life is grand, at every level. Don't forget to celebrate it.

10. Burn that expensive candle

11. Spray that luxury perfume

12. Don't hurt others intentionally

13. Be kind. To everyone. Irrespective of what they did to you.

14. Embrace JOMO

15. If something/someone makes you sad, avoid confrontation.

16. Believe in the power of prayer

17. Always adopt an optimistic attitude irrespective of unfavorable circumstances.

18. Love with your full heart.

19. Make smile your permanent accessory.

20. Postive affirmations everyday.

21. Journal

22. Intentional in every action.

23. Mindful living

24. Don't neglect your health

25. Quiet time everyday

26. Move your body everyday

27. Exercise for fitter and stronger self, not for losing weight

28. Nourish your body with nutritious food.

29. Declutter everyday

30. Tidy your surroundings everyday

31. Sleep for at least 7 hours 

32. Keep your loved ones closer

33. Forgive but don't forget

34. Read everyday and learn something new everyday

35. Relax. It's going to be alright eventually.

This blog post is part of the blog challenge ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’
hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla
in collaboration with Monidipa Dutta.

A flat tummy is kind of a dream for every female. Some work hard for it, and some still don't get it even after regular exercise. 

In fact just a flab free abdomen is so difficult to achieve, leave a size pack abs. A female body bloats at certain points of the month, so there's a catch even there. And Lord save you if you suffer from any kind of hormonal imbalances. Then losing weight can be extremely challenging, leave a flat tummy. Similarly, it happens post surgery. Whether you have a C section or any abdominal surgery; or even any kind of surgery leads to accumulation of flab in the abdomen. And believe me, it's extremely gruelling to lose the post surgical flab of the tummy.

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Body shapers can be quite expensive so I started looking for wholesale bodyshapers which have great reviews. So waistdear.com really has an impressive collection. 

I personally have been struggling with a flabby abdomen after two C sections. After my first C section, it was still manageable. I had normal mommy tummy; slightly flabby (ones which says a female who has given birth and loves to eat too). But after my second one, my abdomen just went out of control. I have so much flab that it looks like a permanent pregnant abdomen. So I started looking for solutions. (Extreme dieting and workout is out of my domain; thanks to my crazy schedule). That's when I came across the post surgery shapewear.

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